This is the absolute most important rule. It is acceptable to touch on topics related to each other’s profiles, but absolutely and under no circumstances should you center the conversation around the fact that you met on OkCupid.
For example, instead of saying, “I read on your profile that what you do on a typical Friday night is run around naked,” maybe you can say, “So, you run around naked?”
Under no circumstances should you mention any of the following things: Your OkCupid match percentage with your date, the phrase “OkCupid profile,” the answers to your match questions or the word “OkCupid.”
Online dating is still somewhat stigmatized
Can you imagine the humiliation of being in a quiet bar with a few other people who look like they’re on dates as well and your date says, “So, how long have you been doing this OkCupid thing, anyway?”
Why all of this matters: While most of the world seems to be online dating these days, essentially, no one is talking about it IRL. Thus, no one wants someone screaming, “HELLO WE ARE ON AN OKCUPID DATE” while you’re on an OkCupid date.
That said, I really do believe that OkCupid is simply a vessel for which to meet awesome (and sometimes not-so-awesome) people who we probably would have never met in our in-person lives. Read more